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Thank you so much for stopping by! I have named this blog "Running to the Cross" because that is what I often find myself doing...running to be with my Lord Jesus! I often cover many aspects of life on my blog, as it is my journal. I used to write things down in all sorts of notebooks, but my writings would soon be lost. So I decided that it was time to start a blog and share my thoughts and ideas with others. Many topics you will find here are prayers, homemaking and organization, children and pregnancy, funny stories, and the challenges of parenting and motherhood. If you enjoy my blog and leave me a comment, you are likely to have me visit! I love meeting others and gleaning from the lives of others. May you be blessed! Your friend in Christ, Heather

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Okay, Clarification time...

I know that there are some that are outraged that I waited until Friday (July 4th) to take my daughter to the doctor...

Well, I will clarify some of the details...

My daughter came down sick on Tuesday. I thought to myself, "Who has been to my house that had the flu?" I made a few calls to see if those that had visited had come down with the flu... No one had...and since we missed church on Sunday, I knew that it wasn't from church. But I still thought in the back of my mind that maybe it was a virus (not even recalling the fact that she had had painful urination a few days before...I have 7 children, it is really busy around here and I am a SCATTERBRAIN!!!).

I go by the rule, "If they have a fever for more than three days, take them to the doctor..."

As you know, the doctor isn't too concerned unless they have been sick with a fever over 103 degrees for more than 3 days*.

  • NOTE: She didn't have a fever for three days straight...it went away for a day.
Wednesday my daughter seemed to get better, HOWEVER I started having a MISCARRIAGE (as most of you know who had been keeping up with my posts, I had been threatening to miscarry for a couple weeks)... I have had a miscarriage before, so I know the way things go...YOU STAY HOME...and hubby stays with you just in case you hemorrhage. *
  • NOTE: I live nowhere near family or friends as we moved states in February.
Things didn't really start picking up with my miscarriage until Wednesday evening, I was having painful cramping and couldn't be on my feet for long. WE literally couldn't leave the house for anything!!! My daughter was doing okay, though I'd rather have taken her in to the doctor Thursday, BUT Thursday my miscarriage continued and I wanted to stay close to the toilet, as the bleeding was much heavier on Thursday. NO, the bleeding wasn't heavy enough for the ER, but heavy enough for me to stay close to home (and recalling my last miscarriage, I was expecting more labor-like pain).

Though, Thursday night was an allnighter with my daughter, we made it through. I kept a close eye on her temperature and planned to find a doctor first thing in the morning. My children haven't been sick much this year, so I hadn't taken the time to find a doctor in this area (since our move).

The first thing I did Friday morning was to dive into my phone book. I called some doctors offices at 8 a.m. only to find that they were either not in the office (on a holiday) or they didn't open until 9 a.m. AND I didn't have an on-call number for ANY doctors in the area. The closest doctor I knew of was 2 HOURS AWAY.

So I patiently waited and got myself ready so I leave for the appointment ASAP.

Upon returning from the doctor, I gave my daughter her antibiotic and started a sick journal to keep track of her temperature, her symptoms, and the medicine she took (including making sure that I gave her antibiotic twice daily because I will forget if I don't). That journal is GREAT, as I haven't forgotten to give her antibiotic to her once!!!

So far, so good! She is feeling a lot better and the antibiotic worked! NO FEVER, NO SYMPTOMS of infection!!!

So, to answer the question as to WHY I didn't rush her to the hospital the minute she came down with a fever...

First, I wanted to make sure that it wasn't a virus and I KNEW that it wasn't a virus when the fever returned.

Secondly....I WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF A MISCARRIAGE!!! What am I expected to do?

I apologize if I have offended anyone.

And to all of my supportive bloggy buddies, THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU!!! For all of your prayers and concerns with my daughter and my miscarriage. God heard your prayers and answered them, HIS way!!!



Anonymous said...

Heather! You do not have to defend your actions to anyone. Only you know the full extent of your circumstances. As mothers, we have all 'been there'. I know how devastating a miscarriage can be and also how you don't exactly think everything through. Your daughter is fine - God's hand was upon her and you.

Don't let people push you into self-doubt.


Brushetta said...

I just have to tell you that I never take my kids to the Dr. except for well-exams and for their shots. I have a child now that has had a fever off and on since last Friday and I have not taken him to the Dr. Guess what? My kids are rarely sick. Why you ask? Ok, I will tell you! ;-) I don't run them to the Dr. every time they sniffle or have a fever. They aren't all "hopped up" on antibiotics and their bodies know how to fight off infection on their own most of the time. I have friends whose kids are always sick and always on meds. Yes, you should have taken her when she said it hurt to urinate, but with a bunch of kids (I do not mean that ugly) sometimes it is hard to "see" everything and to go to the Dr. with everyone is just a nightmare. I can sympathize with you. Now, you know next time. Give the girl a break people!

Amity said...

SO sorry to hear of your miscarriage..you are still in my prayers.
I know where the negative comments about came from...don't worry about it. Those people are downright mean and vengeful.

As far as your daughter being sick ..you handled it fine. My 3 yr old got a really high fever about 2 weeks ago on saturday and through up..the next day she was fine. Then on wednesday she got a really high fever again (104) I gave her Tylenol but it really wasn't bringing it down that much well we woke up Friday morning and she had a fever of 104.7 YIKES..we took her to the ER and they where just like oh no big deal she just had a virus just continue doing what you are doing. SO by Sunday she still had an extremely high fever and then she started getting really bad chest pains so this time we took her to Childrens Hospital and they said she had Pneumonia. MY point being not even the Doctors catch things right away and often overlook things!!

Leanne said...

You did exactly what I would have done....

Don't sweat it. You've got your gut feelings, and you know what to do.

Don't be an alarmist.

Don't listen to rudies!

Leanne in Longview

Brushetta said...

First, Runningthecross, I am so sorry about your miscarriage. I meant to say that on my last post, but was on a roll and forgot. That is heartbreaking I know. My prayers are with you.

Amity - I could be wrong, but I think only one blogger was ugly to her on that other site and others defended her. So, no, not "those people" are mean and vengeful. Just wanted to be fair!

runningtothecross said...

No problem Brushetta, and thanks for making that clear as there indeed was only ONE comment.

And all I simply did here was to make clear what was going on last week so others would understand my desperate situation (with the miscarriage and the sick child).

I appreciate everyone's support & understanding here. I really struggled with the whole predicament I was in, that is between a rock and a hard place.

I am not offended in any way, like I said before, just making things clear.


Amity said...

Sorry..Brushetta..my bad.

sweepingthehome said...

heather, i'm sorry about your loss. i also read your post and think you handled things just fine. your banner is adorable by the way, your children look precious! :)